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When Rejection Turns to Retaliation: The Petty Playbook of Fragile Men

Some men feel entitled to a woman’s attention. To them, her interest is a debt she owes simply for being asked. When that entitlement meets a fragile ego, rejection doesn’t just hurt, it devastates. And when they can’t regain control physically, they often turn to something quieter, but just as malicious: trying to ruin her…
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Beware the Anglerfish: Why the Pearl is Never on Display

Not everything beautiful is easy to see and not everything easy to see is beautiful. This is a lesson worth learning early on because not everyone who shines in front of you is who or what they seem. Some people put everything they have on full display because it’s all. they. have. They polish what…
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Feminism Isn’t About Hating Men—It’s About Honoring Everyone’s Strength

What Feminism Really Means When some people hear the word feminism, they imagine women marching through the streets waving angry signs or see a woman confidently raising her hand in a classroom with unshaven armpits. But that couldn’t be further from the truth. At its core, feminism isn’t about hating men or devaluing masculinity. It’s…
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Not Sure If You’re Ready for Love? Let’s Find Out.

I worked hard on this quiz—mainly because I know what it feels like to think you’re ready for love when you’re not. I’ve definitely been emotionally unavailable myself, even until pretty recently. It’s not always obvious at first, especially if you’re good at going through the motions: dating, showing up, saying the right things. But,…
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‘At Least He Came Back’ Isn’t the Goal: Make Sure It’s for the Right Reasons

We’ve all done it: shrugged our shoulders, sighed, and started a sentence with the infamous: “Well, at least he…” At least he works.At least he says sorry, eventually.At least he doesn’t cheat. But, let’s pause here, because every time you start justifying someone’s bare-minimum behavior with “at least,” you’re not defending love. You’re defending lowered…
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They’re Sleeping on You? Good. Let them.

Being underestimated isn’t always an insult. In fact, it can be a hidden gift, one that grants you space, clarity, and the element of surprise. Whether it’s at work, in relationships, or while chasing your goals, being overlooked (or doubted) may sting at first, but it can ultimately work in your favor. We live in…
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Support Your People the Right Way: Pay Full Price

We love to chant “Support Black businesses,” “Shop small,” or “Buy local,” but when it comes to our friends and family, the approach sometimes shifts. Instead of showing up as paying customers, we might default to asking for favors or expecting special treatment, often without meaning harm. But, what we don’t always realize is that…
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20 Black- and POC-Owned Businesses You Can Support Year-Round

Supporting Black- and POC (Person of Color)-owned businesses isn’t just for Black History Month or social justice surges. These businesses are innovative, creative, and community-rooted and they deserve our attention every day of the year. Here’s a curated list of 20 businesses across beauty, wellness, fashion, food, and lifestyle that are worth supporting and sharing…
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Underrated, Overexposed: Why Chloe Bailey Hasn’t Gotten Her Due

Chloe Bailey should be a household name by now. She has the voice. The range. The beauty. The stage presence. The musicality. The work ethic. She’s proven time and again that she’s not just Beyoncé’s protégé, she’s an artist in her own right. So why hasn’t the world fully caught on? It’s not talent that’s…
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Moving Soon? Here Are the Most Useful (& Overlooked) Tips To Save Stress Later

Moving can be both exciting and exhausting. Whether you’re relocating across town or just down the hall, there’s always more to do than you expect. While the internet is full of basic checklists (e.g., hire movers, change your address, buy boxes), there’s a whole category of actually useful, but often overlooked tips that can make…
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Dealing With Bullies at Work, Especially as a Black Professional in a Post-DEI Era

As Diversity, Equity & Inclusion (DEI) efforts are rolled back, the systems meant to address workplace harm are fading and the impact is getting harder to ignore. DEI roles dropped 5% in 2023 and another 8% in 2024. By 2025, 1 in 8 companies plan to cut or reduce funding entirely. DEI was never just…
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Joy Doesn’t Need Permission

I’m happy. Just not in the way people expect.Not the kind that comes with a ring, a title, or a picture-perfect timeline.I’ve said it out loud, more than once, only to be met with a half-smile and doubtful, “If you say so.” But, this happiness isn’t performative.It’s not polite gratitude or the kind of happiness…
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The DDB Standard: Deaf to Hints, Dumb to Mixed Signals, Blind to Maybes

I know how it looks. You text me a vague invite and I don’t respond. You drop a flirty hint, and I don’t take the bait. You assume I didn’t notice, but I did… In the early stages of dating, I move differently. Some might call it cold and distant, but I call it being…
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How I Keep My Backside Built, Lifted & Living Its Best Life

Let me introduce you to Doja.Some days she’s bold and confident, strutting like she pays rent. Other days she’s quiet, low-key, and needs a little (mental and physical) support. Doja’s not one of those effortless girls who just stays snatched for fun.She requires commitment. Structure. A well-timed glute day.Because if I don’t show up for…
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Juneteenth 2025: Honoring Freedom, Legacy, and Celebration in Detroit (Events Included)

Juneteenth, celebrated annually on June 19th, commemorates the day in 1865 when Union General Gordon Granger arrived in Galveston, Texas, and announced the end of slavery over two years after the Emancipation Proclamation had gone into effect. Though delayed, the message marked a defining moment in U.S. history: the true beginning of freedom for all,…
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When Helping Becomes Harmful: The Truth About Enabling Loved Ones

Love can make us do beautiful things: offer grace, extend compassion, and stand beside someone in their darkest hour. But, sometimes, in the name of love, we cross a line. We stop encouraging growth and start protecting the people we love from the outcomes of their own behavior. It feels like love. It feels like…
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10 ChatGPT Prompts That Helped Me Get Smarter About Money

We’re juggling a million tabs, mentally and literally. Between work, wellness, social lives, and financial responsibilities, life moves fast. That’s why ChatGPT isn’t just a tool, it’s a resource I personally use to make smarter financial decisions. Whether you’re trying to build wealth, save more, pay down debt, or understand credit and investing, these prompts…
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Bring Back the Ballads: Vulnerable Love Songs by Men

There was a time when men weren’t afraid to beg. To plead. To cry in a song. They sang about heartbreak, about messing up, about missing someone so deeply it changed them. They didn’t mask their emotions behind bravado or hide behind hyper-independence. They were honest and vulnerable. Somewhere along the way, we lost much…
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You Can Pray for It, But You Still Have to Move

There’s a quiet danger in sitting back and hoping life will unfold the way it’s supposed to. The idea that “what’s meant for you won’t miss you” can feel comforting, but it can also create a false sense of security. It encourages a passive approach, as though effort is optional and things will work out…
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Why Some Boys from Single-Mother Households Demonize Mothers over Absent Fathers

There’s a quiet grief that lives in the corners of some single-mother households. It doesn’t only bury itself in mothers, but tightly latches onto their sons. It’s a grief rooted in absence, abandonment, and silence. Yet, in a painful twist of fate, it’s often the present, active mother, the one who stayed, sacrificed, and stitched…
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