Your womb is not just a physical organ. It’s a power source. A sacred vault. A generational gateway. Whether or not you ever have children, your womb is the seat of your intuition, creativity, and deep ancestral wisdom. Yet, too often, women are conditioned to treat it like a revolving door, allowing people in who haven’t earned their place, haven’t done the work, and don’t carry the vision.
But, reality check: Your womb is life—including your own.
Who you allow into that space extends beyond your own life. It determines who will shape half of a future child’s DNA, their character, and emotional foundation. This is not a casual choice, it is a profound responsibility.
The Crystal Vase
Imagine your womb as a crystal vase: rare, beautiful, and capable of holding something precious. But, like crystal, it’s delicate. Each time it is mishandled, it fractures. You may piece it back together, and with time it may be made whole again, but it will never fully return to its original form. The repair is never seamless, and the subtle traces of those fractures often remain.
Wouldn’t it be easier (and wiser) to protect it before damaged in the first place?
The Million Dollar Gym Bag
If someone handed you a gym bag filled with cash, would you leave it unzipped on a park bench? Would you trust it with someone who’s never managed a hundred dollars, let alone a million, hoping they wouldn’t steal or lose it all?
Of course not.
You’d protect it. You’d watch who gets close. You’d only let someone handle it if you were absolutely certain they recognized both its worth and that it ultimately belongs to you. More than that, you’d preserve it, placing it with the right institution, in the right financial vehicle, so it could compound and build something that lasts.
Your body deserves the same care. The same discernment. The same strategy.
It’s not something to give away in hopes of earning someone’s love. It’s something to honor and build from, on your terms, with someone who has the capacity to carefully hold what you’re carrying, not just physically, but emotionally and spiritually.
Why This Matters
Access to your body isn’t just about sex. It’s about the creation and fostering of relationships, intimacy, and the possibility for children. And children aren’t casual. They are half you, and half of the person you choose.
And never trust a man who thinks marriage is a more serious commitment than having children. What he’s really saying is that fatherhood requires less of him, while marriage demands more effort—asking for blessings/approval, buying a ring, planning a proposal, wedding, honeymoon, a life. In his eyes, children shift the burden to you, with his only obligation being to maybe show up to the baby shower and birth. But I digress…
So the main considerations should be:
- Is this someone I’d be proud to be the father of my children and/or partner in love and life?
- And if my children grew up to be just like him, would I be at peace with that?
Not only factoring in when things are good or when your person happens to say the right things at the right moment. But, someone who leads with integrity. Someone who’s steady. Someone who would show up, completely, and selflessly for a future that includes more than themselves.
Even if you’re not thinking about children right now, for some, that possibility still exists every time you share your body with someone else. And the consequences, seen or unseen, can ripple far beyond what I hope is at least a pleasurable moment.
What Guarding Your Womb Looks Like:
- Being honest with yourself about what you need and deserve
- Getting rid of the idea that chemistry is enough. It’s not.
- Focusing on consistent action over time, not only words mouthed in the future tense.
- Refusing to entertain “potential” when it comes without proven consistency and proof
- Understanding that peace in your body begins with protection of it
You don’t have to wait until you’ve been shattered into pieces to decide you’re worthy of remaining whole.
Final Thoughts
Your womb is not a reward for someone’s attention. It’s not something to hand over just because someone likes your photos, buys you dinner, or makes you laugh. It is the seat of creation—a place where futures are shaped, where energy and emotion take root, and where life itself can begin.
Pleasure can be powerful. It can be beautiful. But, it’s only truly liberating when you move like someone who understands the stakes. If you’re the one left to carry the emotional, physical, or generational consequences, then pleasure without discernment isn’t freedom, it’s a setup.
And in today’s America, those stakes are even higher. Raising children has never been easy, but now, with the rising costs of childcare, education, housing, and healthcare, it can feel nearly impossible to support a child with a committed partner, let alone alone. That reality makes discernment not just personal, but practical.
You are the gatekeeper. So protect it. Nourish it. Choose who accesses it like your future depends on it because in more ways than imaginable, it does.
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