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The Invisible Scoreboard

You’ve opened LinkedIn and, suddenly, your stomach drops to the pits of hell. Someone just raised 1M in funding.Someone just bought a second home.Someone just made partner before 30.Someone just moved abroad—cost of living low.Someone just launched something innovative, bold. And without meaning to, you start computing. Shouldn’t I be further by now?How old am…
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You Are Not Powerless in America — You’re Being Tested

Let’s start with the uncomfortable truth: it is absolutely insane that the expectation right now is for daily life to continue in America as though nothing is happening. People are being detained, harmed, stripped of due process, and gaslit in real time. And yet, we are told to keep working, keep consuming, keep scrolling, keep…
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You Can’t Be a Good Person and Racist at the Same Time

People who resist the label racist often do so not because they oppose injustice, but because it conflicts with how they see themselves. They tend to think of themselves as decent. Polite. Fair. People who love their families and treat others well in everyday life. So when racism enters the conversation, it feels like a…
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American Life: Living Under Someone Else’s Fear

Before anyone feels the urge to say, “Then go back to where you came from,” let me save you the trouble. After you. Let’s be clear. This country wasn’t discovered, and it certainly wasn’t settled through peace or consent. It was seized through violence and displacement—a history that still shapes how the disease of unease…
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Why Sinners Was Sidelined: Performance Versus Power

There are years when awards debates come down to taste, and then there are years when the distance between what moved the culture and what was rewarded is too wide to ignore. The most recent Critics Choice Awards made that gap especially clear. With Sinners, Ryan Coogler delivered a film that fused Southern Gothic horror,…
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“You Have to Be Ten Times Better:” The Black Survival Manual

For generations, many Black Americans have been raised with a message that was never meant to inspire per se, but primarily to protect: “you have to be ten times better than your counterparts just to be treated as equal.” It was strategy and a rational response to a society that routinely changed the rules the…
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Shiny Object Syndrome: The Illusion of Choice and the Cost of Always Wanting More

There’s a quiet epidemic running through modern relationships. Not a virus or a crisis of compatibility, but something far more subtle: the inability to appreciate what we already have. Shiny object syndrome (SOS) has convinced many people that there is always something better waiting just outside the frame of their current life. Someone hotter, richer,…
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Why Being an Epidemiologist Makes Dating… Complicated (In the Best Way)

There are advantages to being an epidemiologist. For instance, the ability to detect subtle patterns, identify outliers, track trends over time, and forecast outcomes with unnerving accuracy. However, those same skills become a curse the moment they’re intermixed with dating. Most women are taught to trust their feelings. Epidemiologists are trained to trust the data.…
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Gold Diggers? Let’s Talk About Free Labor Diggers

Some men, still finding their financial footing, speak often of “gold diggers,” as if protecting something precious. But, beneath the surface, the fear isn’t about wealth. It’s moreso about worth. The truth is, those warnings often reveal more about self-perception than about women. It’s less a statement of caution and more a reflection of uncertainty—a…
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Diagnosing Racism: What Zohran Mamdani’s Victory Reveals About America’s Collective Disorder

In the wake of Zohran Mamdani’s historic New York City mayoral victory, America was again reminded of its uneasy relationship with identity, power, and belonging. Mamdani, a Muslim of Ugandan-Indian heritage and democratic socialist, won on a platform rooted in affordability, public housing, and equity. Yet, much of the backlash he faced had little to…
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How Labels Can Dehumanize and Uphold Injustice

Throughout history, language has been used not only to describe, but to distort reality. It can make cruelty feel like order, exclusion sound like good policy, and violence appear like it’s necessary for progress. Labels turn people into abstractions, helping those in power stay distant from empathy and accountability when moral clarity threatens their status…
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Dumbest Male Logic Used in Relationships (Yes, We’re Doing This)

Let’s be fair: women have their foolish moments too. We’ve got our “girl math,” our “I can change him,” and our “he’ll grow into the man I see in my head” tendencies. We’ve all been there, rationalizing chaos in the name of love. But, that roast is coming later because today we’re unpacking the mental…
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When the Bear Family Speaks: The Story That Taught Us Not to Ask Why

We’ve all grown up with Goldilocks and the Three Bears as a quaint bedtime story, a seemingly innocent girl with golden curls, guided by curiosity rather than conscience, who wanders into a home that isn’t hers, tasting, testing, and taking until she’s caught, then fleeing without consequence. Depending on the version, she either escapes into…
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No One Can Make You Settle

Not the person who seems perfect on paper.Not the family member who guilt-trips you in the name of love.Not the job that looks stable, but drains you before noon. One of life’s hardest reckonings is realizing that settling is never something done to you. It’s something you quietly agree to…out of fear, comfort, impatience, or…
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Why Bad Bunny’s 2026 Super Bowl Performance Is About More Than Music

There are moments when representation reminds the world of its blind spots. Bad Bunny’s upcoming Super Bowl performance isn’t just entertainment. It’s a cultural checkpoint, a moment when art, identity, and belonging share the same stage. Who Bad Bunny Is and Why He Matters Benito Antonio Martínez Ocasio, known globally as Bad Bunny, isn’t just…
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You Are Enough—Even While You’re Still Growing

There have been seasons when I looked around and felt like everyone else was racing ahead while I stood still, wondering if my pace meant I was falling short. It’s an uneasy feeling, the quiet pressure to be further along, to have more to show for the time that’s passed. But, there’s a quiet strength…
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Manchild Syndrome: How Nurture, Not Nature, Keeps Men Dependent

Adulthood is supposed to mark the point where independence and responsibility become the norm, yet not everyone makes that leap. Some men cling to adolescence well into their adult years, relying on their partners to carry the emotional, mental, and practical weight of daily life. Maybe you’ve seen it firsthand: What can look like harmless…
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If Caring Makes You a Simp, We Need More of Them

The word simp isn’t new. It dates back almost a century. It first appeared in the early 1900s as shorthand for “simpleton,” describing someone seen as foolish or naive. Over time, especially in hip-hop and online culture, the meaning shifted. By the late 20th century, simp was being used to mock men who were perceived…
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Why Anti-Intellectualism Appeals in America—and Why It’s Dangerous

Anti-intellectualism has been woven into America’s cultural fabric for decades, but in recent years it has surged into mainstream discourse with a new force. Politicians, influencers, and even neighbors increasingly champion a message that expertise, higher education, and literacy are overrated, or worse, elitist. It’s tempting to write this off as ignorance, but the truth…
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Protecting Your Care: Strategies for Facing Medical Bias

Health care is supposed to be a place of safety and healing, yet too often it becomes a site of dismissal, doubt, and unequal treatment for patients from marginalized communities. Long waits, minimized pain, delayed testing, and biased assumptions continue to shape medical encounters across clinics, emergency departments, and hospitals. These patterns are not just…
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