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The Invisible Scoreboard

You’ve opened LinkedIn and, suddenly, your stomach drops to the pits of hell. Someone just raised 1M in funding.Someone just bought a second home.Someone just made partner before 30.Someone just moved abroad—cost of living low.Someone just launched something innovative, bold. And without meaning to, you start computing. Shouldn’t I be further by now?How old am…
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What Changed When I Stopped Trying to Be Disciplined

“I’m just not a morning person.”“I’m bad at consistency.”“I’m not a reader.” These statements feel harmless. Honest, even. But, they quietly lock you into an identity that keeps your behavior stagnant. The problem isn’t that you don’t want better habits.The problem is that you’re trying to latch onto change instead of leveraging your environment to…
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You Are Not Powerless in America — You’re Being Tested

Let’s start with the uncomfortable truth: it is absolutely insane that the expectation right now is for daily life to continue in America as though nothing is happening. People are being detained, harmed, stripped of due process, and gaslit in real time. And yet, we are told to keep working, keep consuming, keep scrolling, keep…
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You Can’t Be a Good Person and Racist at the Same Time

People who resist the label racist often do so not because they oppose injustice, but because it conflicts with how they see themselves. They tend to think of themselves as decent. Polite. Fair. People who love their families and treat others well in everyday life. So when racism enters the conversation, it feels like a…
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American Life: Living Under Someone Else’s Fear

Before anyone feels the urge to say, “Then go back to where you came from,” let me save you the trouble. After you. Let’s be clear. This country wasn’t discovered, and it certainly wasn’t settled through peace or consent. It was seized through violence and displacement—a history that still shapes how the disease of unease…
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Why Sinners Was Sidelined: Performance Versus Power

There are years when awards debates come down to taste, and then there are years when the distance between what moved the culture and what was rewarded is too wide to ignore. The most recent Critics Choice Awards made that gap especially clear. With Sinners, Ryan Coogler delivered a film that fused Southern Gothic horror,…
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A Different Approach for the Year Ahead

Happy New Year!~ I hope you rested. I hope you reflected. I hope you closed 2025 with at least a little more clarity than you had going into it. Now… let’s get to business. This is usually the part where we talk about resets. Fresh starts. New versions of ourselves. And that’s fine—truly. There’s nothing…
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“You Have to Be Ten Times Better:” The Black Survival Manual

For generations, many Black Americans have been raised with a message that was never meant to inspire per se, but primarily to protect: “you have to be ten times better than your counterparts just to be treated as equal.” It was strategy and a rational response to a society that routinely changed the rules the…
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If He Switches Up Out of Nowhere, Read This

One day, he is attentive and engaged. The next, his energy feels different. His tone shifts. His interest feels inconsistent. You replay conversations, wondering if you said or did something wrong. Often, you did not. When a man is uncomfortable with a woman who is secure in herself, he may reach for behaviors that make…
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Shiny Object Syndrome: The Illusion of Choice and the Cost of Always Wanting More

There’s a quiet epidemic running through modern relationships. Not a virus or a crisis of compatibility, but something far more subtle: the inability to appreciate what we already have. Shiny object syndrome (SOS) has convinced many people that there is always something better waiting just outside the frame of their current life. Someone hotter, richer,…
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Why Being an Epidemiologist Makes Dating… Complicated (In the Best Way)

There are advantages to being an epidemiologist. For instance, the ability to detect subtle patterns, identify outliers, track trends over time, and forecast outcomes with unnerving accuracy. However, those same skills become a curse the moment they’re intermixed with dating. Most women are taught to trust their feelings. Epidemiologists are trained to trust the data.…
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What Your Tongue and Skin Reveal: Surprising TCM Health Lessons You Can Use Every Day

Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) is one of the oldest healing systems in the world, but what makes it relevant today is not mythology or mysticism. It is the way TCM views the body as a living ecosystem where imbalance has patterns and symptoms have stories. Instead of asking “What pill fixes this,” TCM asks, “What…
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Detroit’s Black Tech Saturdays (BTS): Where Innovation Meets Community

Photo credit: Dr. Dawn Batts, originally published in the Michigan Chronicle. When I first sat in on a Black Tech Saturdays (BTS) event, there were maybe 20 of us in the room, each carrying our own questions, ideas, and quiet ambition. I was curious, but reserved, simply trying to take it all in. I didn’t…
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Detroit’s Holiday Season 2025: The City’s Best Festive Events to Experience

When the cold winds settle over Detroit and the city lights begin to glow against the early evening sky, the holiday season begins to take hold. Downtown streets hum with energy, neighborhoods gather in celebration, and familiar spaces transform into warm, sparkling winter destinations. Whether you are searching for family-friendly fun, romantic winter outings, or…
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Gold Diggers? Let’s Talk About Free Labor Diggers

Some men, still finding their financial footing, speak often of “gold diggers,” as if protecting something precious. But, beneath the surface, the fear isn’t about wealth. It’s moreso about worth. The truth is, those warnings often reveal more about self-perception than about women. It’s less a statement of caution and more a reflection of uncertainty—a…
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Diagnosing Racism: What Zohran Mamdani’s Victory Reveals About America’s Collective Disorder

In the wake of Zohran Mamdani’s historic New York City mayoral victory, America was again reminded of its uneasy relationship with identity, power, and belonging. Mamdani, a Muslim of Ugandan-Indian heritage and democratic socialist, won on a platform rooted in affordability, public housing, and equity. Yet, much of the backlash he faced had little to…
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Restored and Rising: Inside Detroit’s Architectural Revival

Where scaffolding once stood, windows now catch the morning light. Streets that echoed with the sounds of rebuilding have softened into a quieter rhythm. Across downtown, buildings once forgotten stand restored, their details visible again—the curve of stone, the glint of copper, the weight of brick. Detroit’s newest landmarks—Michigan Central Station, the Hudson’s Detroit tower,…
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Celebrating Without the Stress: Affordable Holiday Traditions for a Meaningful Season

The holidays have always been about connection, but in a year when groceries cost more, flights feel impossible, and paychecks stretch thinner than ever, many families are rethinking how they celebrate. The truth is, traditions do not have to drain your bank account to be meaningful. Whether you celebrate Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, or simply…
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How Labels Can Dehumanize and Uphold Injustice

Throughout history, language has been used not only to describe, but to distort reality. It can make cruelty feel like order, exclusion sound like good policy, and violence appear like it’s necessary for progress. Labels turn people into abstractions, helping those in power stay distant from empathy and accountability when moral clarity threatens their status…
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Know a Food Resource? Share It Here: Free Food in Detroit and Beyond

Last updated: October 23, 2025 When the Pantry Runs Low With the end of emergency SNAP benefits and possible delays tied to the federal shutdown, many families are uncertain how they will keep groceries on the table through the month. This page is meant to serve as a living, community-sourced list of food pantries, mobile…
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