Let me make something very clear:
I will never fight another woman — or anyone, for that matter — over a man. Not in public. Not in private. Not emotionally, not verbally, and certainly not physically.
If I have to fight for him, he’s not mine.
If I have to argue, compete, beg, or prove myself to be “chosen,” I’ve already lost something far more valuable than a relationship: my peace and self-worth.
And I don’t trade peace for partnership. I simply remove myself with grace.
Peace over pride
Some people take pride in “standing their ground” in relationships. They’ll go back and forth with whoever threatens their place. They’ll stalk the comments, analyze every like, and even pull up if it gets bad enough, all in the name of “love.”
But, peace isn’t about proving you were here first.
It’s about knowing you’re strong enough to leave…last, and for good.
Because when someone puts you in a position to defend what was supposed to be protected, they’ve already made their choice. And, sorry to say, it wasn’t you.
If he’s entertainable, he’s replaceable
No person worth your energy will ever allow you to be confused about where you stand. They won’t leave the door cracked for attention, ego boosts, or second options. They won’t make loyalty feel like a guessing game.
And if I ever find myself in conflict with someone else over “my” person, that means they, not the outsider, failed to establish clear boundaries.
I don’t close open doors. I walk through them and don’t look back.
You don’t play with people’s hearts or their health
Stress is not romantic. Disrespect is not a challenge to overcome. And competition is not foreplay. When someone puts your mental health, physical safety, or emotional wellbeing at risk just to feed their ego or avoid hard decisions, that’s not love, that’s selfishness.
You never allow someone to play with your time, your life, your health, or your heart.
Because once you start fighting over someone, you’ve already started forgetting your own value.
I don’t care if we’re married
This isn’t just about casual relationships or dating situationships. Even in a marriage, if you find yourself having to fight someone else for the attention, respect, or fidelity of your partner, it’s not a marriage. It’s a performance.
And I won’t perform for love.
I won’t battle for crumbs.
I won’t babysit someone’s loyalty like it needs to be monitored.
If it ever comes to that, again, I’ll leave with grace and I’ll do it immediately.
No additional warnings. No final speeches. Just closure through absence and access revoked.
Final word
There’s a difference between fighting for a relationship and fighting over a person. The former involves communication, healing, and mutual effort. The latter? It’s chaos, distraction, and disrespect disguised as passion.
If someone can invite that kind of mess into your life, they’re not your peace. And if they’re not your peace, they’re not your person.
So no, I won’t fight for a seat in anyone’s life.
I am the peace, the prize, and the presence.
And if someone needs reminding of that, they won’t get a confrontation.
They’ll get closure on my terms.
Lence in Layers 